One of the key principles of conflict that was discussed earlier is that we only know part of the truth. Not knowing the 'other' in a conflict often results in fear. We might perceive the 'other' as threatening to our identity or security or getting in the way of our freedom. We often hear language about fear used in political discourse, such as “they threaten our way of life” or "they are attacking our values". Fear relative to the 'other' is an especially powerful tool to organise people to fight or go to war.
Fear also plays a significant role in our interpersonal conflicts. Our memories of past hurts can shape our fear of approaching similar situations or people. We are fearful of change or difference that might cause us to adjust our identity in a particular context. For example, it is well documented the struggle a first-born child has when the family has another child. The first-born child might begin to act out seeking attention and affirmation of love and belonging, fearing it will be forgotten for the new-born.
Recognising fear is important in a conflict. Fear itself is not bad or unhealthy; it has a very important role to play in our survival, yet unexamined and misplaced fear can be dangerous and prevent us from thinking clearly in a conflict situation. Learning to understand fear helps us discern between real danger and conflict that can be constructive.
Sources: Shenk Wenger, Ann. (1999). When Conflict Turns Violent. In C. Schrock-Shenk and L. Ressler (Eds), Making Peace with Conflict: Practical Skills for Conflict Transformation (pp. 25-37). Scottsdale, PA: Herald Press.
Barker, Phil. "Fear." Beyond Intractability. Ed. Guy Burgess and Heidi Burgess. 9 September, 2011. Conflict Research Consortium, University of Colorado, Boulder, Colorado, USA. <http://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/fear/?nid=1149>.
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